Book Excerpts from Designing Your Ideal Life
On the elusiveness of success:
The reason success is so elusive is that we fail to define for ourselves what will truly make us happy. We get caught up in society’s definition of what success should look like. We don’t take time to reflect and think about what success should look like or feel like for us. My definition of success and happiness will be very different from your definition. It is personal. That is why you are the only one who can do this work. You must gain clarity about what a happy and successful life looks like for you.
How do you want to feel in your life?
I never asked how my career choices would make me feel. I focused on the what, not the feeling. Instead of asking what you should do, ask instead how you want to feel. Then back into what you need to do in order to feel that way.
On focusing on the one thing that really matters:
Your life is full of choices. You get to choose where to prioritize your time, and time is limited. Will you choose to spend time with your children, or will you choose to spend time working? At the end of your life, you will not wish you had gotten one more thing done. You’ll wish you had attended the baseball game where your son hit his only home run. None of us can cheat time. Make sure the choices you make about how to spend your time are the ones that you will be happy to look back on at the end of your life. Make sure your priorities are straight. Make sure your ONE thing is THE one thing.
On finding the perfect career:
The perfect career or business for you will blend your unique strengths, talents, interests, and priorities into an opportunity to pursue a worthwhile meaningful purpose in a work environment that will fit your personality and style. What works for me will not work for you. The bottom line is you get to decide what you want from your life. No one else can do this for you. Once you have decided, you have to act upon the discoveries you have made. You are accountable for your own happiness. You alone are responsible for creating the life you desire.